Unselfish Love

Hello dear reader..

It’s been a while since l wrote.

In the last two months l graduated 🎓 🙏🏾

In the last two months l hit the milestone age of 3️⃣0️⃣ 🎉🥳

Anyway through all this God has been teaching me about unselfish love 💕

I really began to ask myself do l love without a motive?

Are my actions reward motivated?

What is love?..

👆🏾John 13:34 on the commentary section

Growing up l legit thought that love was an emotion.. The 🎥 movies 🍿 l watched confirmed it.

But love is not a feeling, it is more of a decision ..It is unselfish concern.

It has nothing to do with you, it is about doing things that benefit the other 😮 .

To me that was a lot to take it,

l must admit l have been a little selfish at times😬

But l decided that from now onwards l will be more intentional about loving God’s people.

No one has seen God at any time. But if we love one another [with unselfish concern], God abides in us, and His love [the love that is His essence abides in us and] is completed and perfected in us.”

1 John 4:12 AMP

What does it mean to love?

👆🏾1 Corinthians 13:4-8

To love is to be patient,

To love is to be kind,

To love is to protect,

To love is to always be hopeful,

To love is to trust

To love is to never give up 😮

To love is to never lose faith

To love is to endure through every circumstance😮

What love is not

Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice..

So here goes the challenge to love..

Not only love but to unselfishly love..

To be unselfishly concerned about others..

Just as God loved us in such an incredible way ..

Recovering from Mistakes

Have you ever made a mistake?

The definition of a mistake include an act that is wrong. I would love to not make mistakes but sometimes it is inevitable.

The best thing you can do is recover and learn from your mistakes.

The devil uses mistakes to distract us, to condemn us and to discourage us. His aim is to Steal our confidence in God, to kill our relationship with God and to destroy what God is trying to build in you.

  • In most cases when l have made a mistake my reaction would be to
    1. Condemn myself and blame myself
      Remove myself from everything (guilt)
      Then my prayer life reduces (my relationship with God suffers).

    Now that l have studied this pattern l know that it is a work of the enemy! To distract me from what God is doing. God doesn’t want that for me. Instead he calls me closer to Him.

    So what then do we do when we realise our actions were wrong? Who better to learn from than David himself. (2 Samuel 12:13), (Ps 51:10)

    Steps to take when you have made a mistake

    1. Confess your sins, tell God what you have done. Don’t try to blame, accept that you were wrong.
    2. Ask for forgiveness , ask God for forgiveness, if you wronged someone ask them for forgiveness.
    3. Receive your forgiveness, this step is important because if you don’t believe in your heart that God has forgiven you, condemnation will take hold of you..
    4. Learn from your mistakes. It’s important to know that you’re not your mistakes. That’s not who you are, Mistakes have no place in defining you. But we can use them as a learning tool.

    Ask yourself why you behaved that way?

    How can you avoid this in the future ?

    5. Keep on Keeping on 😄. Don’t shrink back. Continue doing what God has called you to do. The devil would like you to stop.

    Press on , Feed your soul with the word of God. Spend time with God.

    I pray that this encourages you!

    God loves you 💖

    The realities of Heaven

    What is Heaven‘s Reality?

    Heaven’s reality is different from our reality.

    On heavens reality Healing is our portion.

    On heavens reality Peace is our portion.

    On heavens reality we are Forgiven.

    On heavens reality Prosperity is our portion..

    On heavens reality we are loved.

    God says his thoughts are not our thoughts.

    Our ways are not his ways.

    God’s ways and thoughts are far higher and greater than ours.

    So where do we get it wrong?

    1. We focus so much on the realities of this world 🌍.

    2. We have not mastered the art of receiving what Jesus has already given us.

    3. We don’t believe in the realities of heaven.

    What should we do?

    1. I know it’s a process but we have to master the habit of focusing on Jesus..

    Whatever we see here on earth is not our reality as children of God. We can pray that as it is in Heaven let it be in our lives .

    2. Receive God Himself. Receive His reign over your life. Receive His gifts..

    3. Believing in the realities of Heaven. Regardless of what we are going through, let’s choose to see things as God sees.

    Dear Child of God

    You’re blessed and not cursed.

    You’re above and not beneath.

    You are not poor but you’re rich.

    You’re not worthless you’re the apple of God’s eye.

    You’re not ugly you’re a masterpiece.

    Things will work in your favour..

    You’re not a failure you’re a winner.

    That is your reality..

    Look up…

    See Heaven..

    See Jesus..

    God loves you..

    Patience the prerequisite

    Have you ever wondered how to possess the promises of God? Well l have, l must confess to wanting to rush the process.. In between trying to upgrade my studies, working and just life in general, l was beginning to get frustrated with the process to the promise. The when’s and why’s had become my best friends 😂.

    With God there are no shortcuts l realised.. The only way out is through it ..

    Patience as l have now come to understand is the behaviour in waiting not just the ability to wait.. COLOSSIANS‬ ‭3:12‬ ‭AMP‬‬👇🏾

    “So, as God’s own chosen people, who are holy [set apart, sanctified for His purpose] and well-beloved [by God Himself],

    put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience [which has the power to endure whatever injustice or unpleasantness comes, with good temper];” COLOSSIANS‬ ‭3:12‬ ‭AMP‬‬

    In order to receive the promises of God in our lives we constantly need to work on our endurance , our ability to not complain and grumble .. Even just to continue doing the will of God, we need to become better at enduring seasons with a good temper.

    Only then can we receive All that God has promised us.. Hebrews 10:36☝🏽

    Well l pray this will help you in your walk with God. That God may encourage you and strengthen you as you read this..

    Much love 💖

    Shalom

    We need each other…

    Granted, relationships are hard to maintain. People are bound to say and do things that get to us. But never allow yourself to believe that it’s better for you to isolate yourself from people, especially those that God has given you.

    Isolation is an a trick of the enemy

    There are times that l have found myself crying myself to sleep, stressing over things and never asking for help. Feeling alone yet l have such great people around me but l had believed a lie that l am better off alone.

    The devil seeks to isolate you so that he can attack you and no one will be there to help you.

    We have to pray for the ability to discern when the devil is at work in our relationships and in our minds. The devil is a liar he will whisper lies to you, that you are alone, that no one understands and there by putting a distance between you and your family, your friends and even your church brethren.

    “A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated,

    but two can stand back-to-back and conquer.

    Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.

    Ecclesiastes‬ ‭4:12‬ ‭NLT‬‬

    I have come to realise that the devil is busy, he seeks to isolate the hearts of children from their mothers, sisters from their brothers, husbands from their wives .

    You find yourself suffering in silence yet you are surrounded by family and friends. People getting depressed, suicide rates are heart breaking, mostly because people won’t talk to each other.

    If you’re feeling alone right now l want to encourage you that “God is with you”,

    And if you’re overwhelmed and needing help find someone to help you.

    In which relationships are you sensing a wage of distance? Do you find yourself constantly isolating yourself?

    When you know the truth, you will recognise the lie.

    I pray that this empowers you to fight for your relationships.

    Much love 💖

    Shalom

    Beauty for ashes

    My dearly beloved broken crayons still colour .

    Your History doesn’t determine your destiny .

    The current situation in your life doesn’t dictate your future.

    Your pain serves as fuel for your testimony and your destiny.

    Your mourning, your despair, your shame has qualified you to receive beauty, blessings and a double portion of honour.

    God is in the habit of making the most out of the worst situation. Bringing out the best in us through the challenges we face.

    To all who mourn in Israel,

    1️⃣he will give a crown of beauty for ashes, 2️⃣a joyous blessing instead of mourning, 3️⃣festive praise instead of despair.

    In their righteousness, they will be like great oaks that the Lord has planted for his own glory.” Isaiah‬ ‭61:3‬ ‭

    Have you experienced shame?

    “Instead of shame and dishonor, you will enjoy a double share of honor. You will possess a double portion of prosperity in your land, and everlasting joy will be yours.” Isaiah‬ ‭61:7‬ ‭

    God is so good 🙏, Every situation in your life that you thought would be the end of you, He uses it to make you a hundred times better .

    There is beauty waiting for you on the other side, Hold on!

    I hope you’re encouraged

    Much love 💕

    Shalom

    Is what you do, who you are?

    Isn’t it great that God calls us by name? Whilst we seek identity from what we have, what we do, our relationship status, we have a God who has an identity for us that is not based on what we do, but on who He is !🙌🏻

    Before any human title we may acquire , it’s important that we know that we are children of God. He is our creator, we are His creation, He is the potter and we are the clay .

    “So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.” Genesis‬ ‭1:27‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

    Growing up as a teen l tried to gain identity by what l did and by my possession. See having being so insecure, l thought that l had to obtain love from God by my performance.

    That was far from the truth!, Nothing in this world has power to define who you are in God. He loved us before we even loved Him, He validated and approved of my existence before l was even born! Nothing that l could do can separate me from His love.

    You can become so consumed with what you do so much that you forget who you are. It may be that you are a mother, a father, or have a high status in the community, it may be that you do something in the house of God. Whatever it is you are first and foremost “God’s own”.

    Even if you fail at what you do, you will still be a child of God.Even when you lose what you have, God still says that you are His!

    This truth, changed my life. I pray that it encourages you!

    Much love 💖

    Shalom

    Embracing the unpredictability of life..

    Discomfort, disappointment , disruption, pain are part of life, so is comfort, celebration, love, joy and success. To go through life only expecting the good leaves room for nasty setbacks when things don’t go as planned.

    I have decided to give up the notion of comfort and embrace the unpredictability of life .

    I realised that when God says fear not He promises to be with us not take us away from the circumstances but to walk through them with us.

    “When you pass through the waters,I will be with you; And through the rivers, they shall not overflow you. When you walk through the fire, you shall not be burned, Nor shall the flame scorch you.”Isaiah‬ ‭43:2‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

     

    “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.” Joshua‬ ‭1:9‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

    “Yea, though I walk through the valleyof the shadow of death, I will fear no evil;For You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.” Psalms‬ ‭23:4‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

    Dear friends there will be valleys, there will be mountains, we may pass through waters, and may have to walk through fiery circumstances , but God is with us. At times your life may need to be disrupted so that there may be progress.

    The challenge is in staying calm in the fire, staying alive, to keep praying and praising when everything is against you. Stay in the fight!

    I used to get affected so much by circumstances. Functioning through storms of life has been a real struggle.

    However life has taught me that not all things will go as planned. Whatever the situation l must keep on keeping on.

     

    So my goal this year is to never stop , regardless of whatever comes my way. However painful the challenge, the heart break, the discomfort will find me ready and prepared. I have stopped too many times, and that has not kept disruptions from coming my way.

    So what am l saying today?, As my Pastor would put it “Hope for the best and prepare for the worst.

    Embrace the unpredictability of life.

    I hope you are encouraged

    Much love 💖

    Shalom

    We have been gifted

    Merry Christmas dear reader!

    I’m excited, we have been gifted, we have been given a gift that is greater than anything we could ever imagine. A gift that will last for eternal ages. The gift is Jesus Christ,

    Wonderful Counselor

    Mighty God

    Everlasting Father

    Prince of peace

    Jesus is the reason for the season!

    For this reason we rejoice, our Lord has come!

    The next day John seeth Jesus coming unto him, and saith,

    Behold the Lamb of God, which taketh away the sin of the world.”

    John‬ ‭1:29‬ ‭KJV‬‬

    Let us therefore prepare Him room !

    With every gift we make a conscious decision to receive. I pray that we may receive this gift,

    The gift “Jesus Christ ”

    Much Love 💖

    Merry Christmas

    Shalom

    What crisis demands …

    So l looked up the definition for crisis, it is “defined as a time of intense difficulty, hardship or even adversity”. After having been through a whirlwind of a year.

    Let’s face it no one really wants to be in a crisis but life doesn’t give us the luxury of that choice. Things can take a turn at any given time and as children of God it’s best that “we know what crisis demands.”

    “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour.” I Peter‬ ‭5:8‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

    Job is one of many in the Bible who experienced great difficulty :

    • The attack of his character
    • The attack of his protection
    • The attack of his family
    • The attack of his possession
    • The attack of his health

    As l was reading through the book of Job, l wanted to learn how he reacted to such times of crisis. I for one am not a fan of problems and l tend to react the wrong way.😩 Doing what crisis demands

    1️⃣Cry out to God ,the temptation is to complain, be anxious, be troubled and give up. But Job prayed.

    “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;”. Philippians‬ ‭4:6‬

    Which ever the case refuse to let the situation cause you to lose faith in God..

    2️⃣ Worship God, when crisis befell Job he bowed down and worshiped God.

    “Then Job arose, tore his robe, and shaved his head; and he fell to the ground and worshiped.”Job‬ ‭1:20‬ ‭NKJV‬‬Crisis demands that we keep giving God glory

    3️⃣ Hold on to your integrity , your beliefs. People will question your beliefs when difficulty strikes, they will question your God. It’s important that we hold on to God and to his ways in crisis.

    Then his wife said to him, “Do you still hold fast to your integrity? Curse God and die!” But he said to her, “You speak as one of the foolish women speaks. Shall we indeed accept good from God, and shall we not accept adversity?”In all this Job did not sin with his lips.Job‬ ‭2:9-10‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

    4️⃣Trusting God in such times is crucial. Knowing that we may not understand but He does. Leaning not on our understanding, {Proverbs 3:5-6}. Job keeps this trust in God.

    5️⃣Acknowledge that God is God. Most of the times when we get into a crisis we try to figure things out, we may even utter words that offend God.

    “You asked, ‘Who is this who hides counsel without knowledge?’ Therefore I have uttered what I did not understand, Things too wonderful for me, which I did not know.” Job‬ ‭42:3‬

    Job Repented, acknowledging that he had spoken of things he didn’t understand. Repentance brought restoration .

    🔴“And the LORD blessed the latter days of Job more than his beginning; for he had 14,000 sheep, 6,000 camels, 1,000 yoke of oxen, and 1,000 female donkeys.” JOB‬ ‭42:12‬ ‭

    Stay strong God will restore you. Do what crisis demands hold on.

    Whatever the crisis God is with you.

    Much love

    Shalom❤️