Unselfish Love

Hello dear reader..

It’s been a while since l wrote.

In the last two months l graduated 🎓 🙏🏾

In the last two months l hit the milestone age of 3️⃣0️⃣ 🎉🥳

Anyway through all this God has been teaching me about unselfish love 💕

I really began to ask myself do l love without a motive?

Are my actions reward motivated?

What is love?..

👆🏾John 13:34 on the commentary section

Growing up l legit thought that love was an emotion.. The 🎥 movies 🍿 l watched confirmed it.

But love is not a feeling, it is more of a decision ..It is unselfish concern.

It has nothing to do with you, it is about doing things that benefit the other 😮 .

To me that was a lot to take it,

l must admit l have been a little selfish at times😬

But l decided that from now onwards l will be more intentional about loving God’s people.

No one has seen God at any time. But if we love one another [with unselfish concern], God abides in us, and His love [the love that is His essence abides in us and] is completed and perfected in us.”

1 John 4:12 AMP

What does it mean to love?

👆🏾1 Corinthians 13:4-8

To love is to be patient,

To love is to be kind,

To love is to protect,

To love is to always be hopeful,

To love is to trust

To love is to never give up 😮

To love is to never lose faith

To love is to endure through every circumstance😮

What love is not

Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice..

So here goes the challenge to love..

Not only love but to unselfishly love..

To be unselfishly concerned about others..

Just as God loved us in such an incredible way ..

Recovering from Mistakes

Have you ever made a mistake?

The definition of a mistake include an act that is wrong. I would love to not make mistakes but sometimes it is inevitable.

The best thing you can do is recover and learn from your mistakes.

The devil uses mistakes to distract us, to condemn us and to discourage us. His aim is to Steal our confidence in God, to kill our relationship with God and to destroy what God is trying to build in you.

  • In most cases when l have made a mistake my reaction would be to
    1. Condemn myself and blame myself
      Remove myself from everything (guilt)
      Then my prayer life reduces (my relationship with God suffers).

    Now that l have studied this pattern l know that it is a work of the enemy! To distract me from what God is doing. God doesn’t want that for me. Instead he calls me closer to Him.

    So what then do we do when we realise our actions were wrong? Who better to learn from than David himself. (2 Samuel 12:13), (Ps 51:10)

    Steps to take when you have made a mistake

    1. Confess your sins, tell God what you have done. Don’t try to blame, accept that you were wrong.
    2. Ask for forgiveness , ask God for forgiveness, if you wronged someone ask them for forgiveness.
    3. Receive your forgiveness, this step is important because if you don’t believe in your heart that God has forgiven you, condemnation will take hold of you..
    4. Learn from your mistakes. It’s important to know that you’re not your mistakes. That’s not who you are, Mistakes have no place in defining you. But we can use them as a learning tool.

    Ask yourself why you behaved that way?

    How can you avoid this in the future ?

    5. Keep on Keeping on 😄. Don’t shrink back. Continue doing what God has called you to do. The devil would like you to stop.

    Press on , Feed your soul with the word of God. Spend time with God.

    I pray that this encourages you!

    God loves you 💖

    The enemy in my mind…

    I have often wished someone could pray away the bad thoughts in my mind,

    That someone could just pray away the fear, the anxiety and the confusion that takes my mind by storm..

    I realised that l had an enemy , The Bible calls him the accuser of the brethren..

    He is sneaky, he doesn’t come in ways you can see him, he is a deceiver ..

    l realised l had been fighting a battle in my mind with The spirit of negativity..

    Every spiritually force that fights our lives has a name. To win the battle we have to fight the enemy at his lies.

    Recognising what you are fighting is the first step..

    No matter what good thing happened to me, l always found a way to think negatively, there was always something in the way of my joy..

    Now that l know what l am fighting, the second step is to fight. Some thoughts you can’t pray away you have to

    Declare what you know to be true (the word of your testimony) pull down strongholds by your declarations.

  • Our words are powerful, l never understood this but the best thing you can do for yourself when bad thoughts overtake your mind is to speak the word of God..
  • Silence the accuser in your mind by testifying about what God says about you. We have been given a sound mind..

    2Timothy1:7.

    Lastly arm yourself with the word of God.. Think about what you are allowing yourself to think about?

    For me l recognised that l constantly allowed myself to think negatively about myself..

    Then replace those thoughts with good thoughts..

    At times you may need extra help to dig through the roots of whatever is going on in your mind, talking to someone you can trust someone who can help you ..

    Whatever it is the enemy has been saying to you is a lie..

    Let the voice of God be louder .

    The realities of Heaven

    What is Heaven‘s Reality?

    Heaven’s reality is different from our reality.

    On heavens reality Healing is our portion.

    On heavens reality Peace is our portion.

    On heavens reality we are Forgiven.

    On heavens reality Prosperity is our portion..

    On heavens reality we are loved.

    God says his thoughts are not our thoughts.

    Our ways are not his ways.

    God’s ways and thoughts are far higher and greater than ours.

    So where do we get it wrong?

    1. We focus so much on the realities of this world 🌍.

    2. We have not mastered the art of receiving what Jesus has already given us.

    3. We don’t believe in the realities of heaven.

    What should we do?

    1. I know it’s a process but we have to master the habit of focusing on Jesus..

    Whatever we see here on earth is not our reality as children of God. We can pray that as it is in Heaven let it be in our lives .

    2. Receive God Himself. Receive His reign over your life. Receive His gifts..

    3. Believing in the realities of Heaven. Regardless of what we are going through, let’s choose to see things as God sees.

    Dear Child of God

    You’re blessed and not cursed.

    You’re above and not beneath.

    You are not poor but you’re rich.

    You’re not worthless you’re the apple of God’s eye.

    You’re not ugly you’re a masterpiece.

    Things will work in your favour..

    You’re not a failure you’re a winner.

    That is your reality..

    Look up…

    See Heaven..

    See Jesus..

    God loves you..

    Is what you do, who you are?

    Isn’t it great that God calls us by name? Whilst we seek identity from what we have, what we do, our relationship status, we have a God who has an identity for us that is not based on what we do, but on who He is !🙌🏻

    Before any human title we may acquire , it’s important that we know that we are children of God. He is our creator, we are His creation, He is the potter and we are the clay .

    “So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.” Genesis‬ ‭1:27‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

    Growing up as a teen l tried to gain identity by what l did and by my possession. See having being so insecure, l thought that l had to obtain love from God by my performance.

    That was far from the truth!, Nothing in this world has power to define who you are in God. He loved us before we even loved Him, He validated and approved of my existence before l was even born! Nothing that l could do can separate me from His love.

    You can become so consumed with what you do so much that you forget who you are. It may be that you are a mother, a father, or have a high status in the community, it may be that you do something in the house of God. Whatever it is you are first and foremost “God’s own”.

    Even if you fail at what you do, you will still be a child of God.Even when you lose what you have, God still says that you are His!

    This truth, changed my life. I pray that it encourages you!

    Much love 💖

    Shalom

    The painted picture..

    So l have been a little frustrated about my pictures lately 😂. To be honest l allowed myself to get frustrated by a lot of things this month.That being said I’m grateful for the lessons that l learn in each and every challenge.

    With only a few weeks left for October to end l look back and see that God really helped me through some tough times and taught me some tough lessons, revealing to me the need to work more so on my attitude in the stormy ⛈ seasons. The fact that I’m writing again is a miracle in itself.

    Anyways as l was frustrated at myself wondering why l always look terrible in people’s pictures 😂, God gave me this amazing revelation that got right to the depths of my heart. I know that it might seem very petty to you but l have suffered from a deep seated inferiority complex for the longest of times and though for the most part l have healed, the devil can use a weird looking picture of me to remind me of my painful past.

    So today God said to me “Shalom it’s just a painted picture. It doesn’t show who you really are, how kind you are, how loving you are, how much you desire to do well for others, it doesn’t show all that at all. So why are you frustrated at the painted picture.

    • How many times though do we paint a picture of perfection?
    • How many times to we uphold the picture, praise the picture of all that is happening and forget the effort that was put in getting the perfect picture?.
    • How many times do people put so much more effort on the wedding ceremony and forget that they have to work on the marriage itself.

    Don’t be disheartened and discouraged by the picture that is painted to you

    by your circumstances, by people around you, by how you look now, by what people say, not even by your mistakes It’s only their version and not really the truth . The truth should set you free. The truth is what God says. The true picture of who you are can only be painted by God.

    So let God paint a picture of the true you, don’t concentrate on how others see you.. God has the bigger picture..

    I hope you’re encouraged

    Love ♥️

    Shalom

    Enriched relationships..

    A few years back l heard a statement from my mentor that stuck with me “God protects us against our enemies, but He can’t protect us from our brothers” (The people that God has given you, your close family, your church brethren or anyone who has been placed into your life by God intentionally). I couldn’t understand it at first but recently l have come to understand it.

    God gives us the responsibility to work out our relationships with those He gave us. It is up to us to forgive each other, to be truthful, to love, to respect , to honour ..

    And God himself is our standard, our manual for how to relate to each other.”

    If we but for one moment think of how we can improve the way we relate to each other, l believe the world would be a better place today.

    So l ask, If you knew you had the power to make someone feel loved, feel secure, feel encouraged what would you do differently on a daily basis in order to enhance better relations?

    How does God relate to us?

    Here are some things l found out about how God encourages us to relate to Him and how He relates to us?

    🔹He Loves and when God loves He gives. His love is strong as death, God sacrificed, something that He loved so deeply His Only Son- unselfish love.

    🔸He is constant and unchanging, never Lies, God actually cannot lie, God

    remains faithful and true to His word.

    “God is not a man, that He should lie, Nor a son of man, that He should repent. Has He said, and will He not do it? Or has He spoken and will He not make it good and fulfill it?”

    NUMBERS‬ ‭23:19‬ ‭AMP‬‬

    🔺God forgives, forever merciful, compassionate slow to anger, gracious and faithful.

    Then the LORD passed by in front of him, and proclaimed, “The LORD, the LORD God, compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in lovingkindness and truth (faithfulness);”EXODUS‬ ‭34:6‬ ‭AMP‬‬

    1️⃣We could talk of how God always hears us when we call, 2️⃣ How he is always with us3️⃣How absolutely trustworthy and dependable God is4️⃣How He has plans for us to prosper5️⃣ How much God wants to fellowship with us6️⃣How so deeply concerned about us He is7️⃣How God grants us so much grace, honour. Oh how he has blessed us so, even when we don’t deserve it.. 🙌🏻 His ways are so perfect.

    God is the perfect example of how we should conduct ourselves in our relationships.

    Let us get into the habit of thinking about how we can love better, encourage more, be there for each other, communicate to each other, forgiving one another and improving, adding to each other’s lives as God desires.

    🙏Prayer

    Father thank you for loving us, thank you for granting us the ability to have a relationship with you, Help us to make you the standard of how we relate to each other, so that your Name may be glorified, that we may be filled with so much of you and less of us. Thank you God for you are a God who is able.

    May God enrich your relationships and give you people that will love you as He does.

    I hope you are encouraged

    Love ❤️

    Shalom