Unselfish Love

Hello dear reader..

It’s been a while since l wrote.

In the last two months l graduated 🎓 🙏🏾

In the last two months l hit the milestone age of 3️⃣0️⃣ 🎉🥳

Anyway through all this God has been teaching me about unselfish love 💕

I really began to ask myself do l love without a motive?

Are my actions reward motivated?

What is love?..

👆🏾John 13:34 on the commentary section

Growing up l legit thought that love was an emotion.. The 🎥 movies 🍿 l watched confirmed it.

But love is not a feeling, it is more of a decision ..It is unselfish concern.

It has nothing to do with you, it is about doing things that benefit the other 😮 .

To me that was a lot to take it,

l must admit l have been a little selfish at times😬

But l decided that from now onwards l will be more intentional about loving God’s people.

No one has seen God at any time. But if we love one another [with unselfish concern], God abides in us, and His love [the love that is His essence abides in us and] is completed and perfected in us.”

1 John 4:12 AMP

What does it mean to love?

👆🏾1 Corinthians 13:4-8

To love is to be patient,

To love is to be kind,

To love is to protect,

To love is to always be hopeful,

To love is to trust

To love is to never give up 😮

To love is to never lose faith

To love is to endure through every circumstance😮

What love is not

Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice..

So here goes the challenge to love..

Not only love but to unselfishly love..

To be unselfishly concerned about others..

Just as God loved us in such an incredible way ..

Recovering from Mistakes

Have you ever made a mistake?

The definition of a mistake include an act that is wrong. I would love to not make mistakes but sometimes it is inevitable.

The best thing you can do is recover and learn from your mistakes.

The devil uses mistakes to distract us, to condemn us and to discourage us. His aim is to Steal our confidence in God, to kill our relationship with God and to destroy what God is trying to build in you.

  • In most cases when l have made a mistake my reaction would be to
    1. Condemn myself and blame myself
      Remove myself from everything (guilt)
      Then my prayer life reduces (my relationship with God suffers).

    Now that l have studied this pattern l know that it is a work of the enemy! To distract me from what God is doing. God doesn’t want that for me. Instead he calls me closer to Him.

    So what then do we do when we realise our actions were wrong? Who better to learn from than David himself. (2 Samuel 12:13), (Ps 51:10)

    Steps to take when you have made a mistake

    1. Confess your sins, tell God what you have done. Don’t try to blame, accept that you were wrong.
    2. Ask for forgiveness , ask God for forgiveness, if you wronged someone ask them for forgiveness.
    3. Receive your forgiveness, this step is important because if you don’t believe in your heart that God has forgiven you, condemnation will take hold of you..
    4. Learn from your mistakes. It’s important to know that you’re not your mistakes. That’s not who you are, Mistakes have no place in defining you. But we can use them as a learning tool.

    Ask yourself why you behaved that way?

    How can you avoid this in the future ?

    5. Keep on Keeping on 😄. Don’t shrink back. Continue doing what God has called you to do. The devil would like you to stop.

    Press on , Feed your soul with the word of God. Spend time with God.

    I pray that this encourages you!

    God loves you 💖

    We need each other…

    Granted, relationships are hard to maintain. People are bound to say and do things that get to us. But never allow yourself to believe that it’s better for you to isolate yourself from people, especially those that God has given you.

    Isolation is an a trick of the enemy

    There are times that l have found myself crying myself to sleep, stressing over things and never asking for help. Feeling alone yet l have such great people around me but l had believed a lie that l am better off alone.

    The devil seeks to isolate you so that he can attack you and no one will be there to help you.

    We have to pray for the ability to discern when the devil is at work in our relationships and in our minds. The devil is a liar he will whisper lies to you, that you are alone, that no one understands and there by putting a distance between you and your family, your friends and even your church brethren.

    “A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated,

    but two can stand back-to-back and conquer.

    Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.

    Ecclesiastes‬ ‭4:12‬ ‭NLT‬‬

    I have come to realise that the devil is busy, he seeks to isolate the hearts of children from their mothers, sisters from their brothers, husbands from their wives .

    You find yourself suffering in silence yet you are surrounded by family and friends. People getting depressed, suicide rates are heart breaking, mostly because people won’t talk to each other.

    If you’re feeling alone right now l want to encourage you that “God is with you”,

    And if you’re overwhelmed and needing help find someone to help you.

    In which relationships are you sensing a wage of distance? Do you find yourself constantly isolating yourself?

    When you know the truth, you will recognise the lie.

    I pray that this empowers you to fight for your relationships.

    Much love 💖

    Shalom

    Enriched relationships..

    A few years back l heard a statement from my mentor that stuck with me “God protects us against our enemies, but He can’t protect us from our brothers” (The people that God has given you, your close family, your church brethren or anyone who has been placed into your life by God intentionally). I couldn’t understand it at first but recently l have come to understand it.

    God gives us the responsibility to work out our relationships with those He gave us. It is up to us to forgive each other, to be truthful, to love, to respect , to honour ..

    And God himself is our standard, our manual for how to relate to each other.”

    If we but for one moment think of how we can improve the way we relate to each other, l believe the world would be a better place today.

    So l ask, If you knew you had the power to make someone feel loved, feel secure, feel encouraged what would you do differently on a daily basis in order to enhance better relations?

    How does God relate to us?

    Here are some things l found out about how God encourages us to relate to Him and how He relates to us?

    🔹He Loves and when God loves He gives. His love is strong as death, God sacrificed, something that He loved so deeply His Only Son- unselfish love.

    🔸He is constant and unchanging, never Lies, God actually cannot lie, God

    remains faithful and true to His word.

    “God is not a man, that He should lie, Nor a son of man, that He should repent. Has He said, and will He not do it? Or has He spoken and will He not make it good and fulfill it?”

    NUMBERS‬ ‭23:19‬ ‭AMP‬‬

    🔺God forgives, forever merciful, compassionate slow to anger, gracious and faithful.

    Then the LORD passed by in front of him, and proclaimed, “The LORD, the LORD God, compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in lovingkindness and truth (faithfulness);”EXODUS‬ ‭34:6‬ ‭AMP‬‬

    1️⃣We could talk of how God always hears us when we call, 2️⃣ How he is always with us3️⃣How absolutely trustworthy and dependable God is4️⃣How He has plans for us to prosper5️⃣ How much God wants to fellowship with us6️⃣How so deeply concerned about us He is7️⃣How God grants us so much grace, honour. Oh how he has blessed us so, even when we don’t deserve it.. 🙌🏻 His ways are so perfect.

    God is the perfect example of how we should conduct ourselves in our relationships.

    Let us get into the habit of thinking about how we can love better, encourage more, be there for each other, communicate to each other, forgiving one another and improving, adding to each other’s lives as God desires.

    🙏Prayer

    Father thank you for loving us, thank you for granting us the ability to have a relationship with you, Help us to make you the standard of how we relate to each other, so that your Name may be glorified, that we may be filled with so much of you and less of us. Thank you God for you are a God who is able.

    May God enrich your relationships and give you people that will love you as He does.

    I hope you are encouraged

    Love ❤️

    Shalom